I have to start doing this more often since I don't remember things that happen years ago. I've been reading some archives of some LJ friends and also mine.
- I found out that I am still not that huge on uploading pics - which often is the common draw for others to read your entries.
- I realised that my pet dog is 5yrs old already.
- that I went on more holidays than I remembered.
Anyways, the husband intentionally forgot our wedding anniversary day. He lost money on the stock market again and this time, *sigh*. But he tried to make it up but in his usual way...
the things he gets for me, he will get to enjoy too.
Action 1
He borrowed The Legend from his colleague and said it was a special favor for me. When I was not too overjoyed about it, it baffled him - until he watched it till past 2am - I slept at 12am, cannot tahan midnites nowadays. I pointed out the obvious, he denied.
Action 2
717 durian imported some "mao shan wang" and he knew these days, I am either mao shan wang or nothing. He got a shock when 2 of that buggers made him 80bucks poorer (the last time we ate it, I paid). So he insisted that it was for my sakes.
Although the whole family got it eat it, I am pretty okay and satisfied. Good things are meant to be shared with the loved ones anyway.
All I can feel now is that I have to give it to him for having the intentions to do it right.
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
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Thursday, June 05, 2008
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
companion
Sweets for my Sweet is a fun show to watch and to get a lot of tips on where to get great desserts around the island.
This Monday, I had dinner else where the hubby and kids saw the programme and recorded the show for my sake.
I watched the recorded piece last night and we exchanged comments about the show.. about Jamie, about Daniel. And at the end of the show he said that watching the programme without me was totally meaningless.
I think that was a nice thing to hear...
This Monday, I had dinner else where the hubby and kids saw the programme and recorded the show for my sake.
I watched the recorded piece last night and we exchanged comments about the show.. about Jamie, about Daniel. And at the end of the show he said that watching the programme without me was totally meaningless.
I think that was a nice thing to hear...
Monday, October 22, 2007
about marital fights
we've been doing alot of verbal fights these days between us. I hate it but I've been trying my utmost best to ignore it. It's been like for 8 months already.
Perhaps because there is a bugging resentment in me and when I say it, he does not want to acknowledge it at all.
My temperament is always been on the hot side. To me, I've been calming that alot, it takes enormous effort to do it but he expects it and I do have the feeling that he takes it for granted and does not appreciate.
On top of that, he always gives me the feeling that I can choose to be flexible in my job arrangement. It really does not matter to me to give more to the family but don't treat it like I'm a full time homemaker! I resent the fact that I'm doing everything and contributing to the dough too.
His priority differs alot from me. To him, he is already giving me support by fetching me to the run. But my brother in law not only sends his wife there, when they saw her coming in, they were cheering for her excitedly. Me, I was all alone when I came in and broke into cold sweat cos of my tummy ache and he wasn't there. I was very disappointed and I kept a straight face throughout the entire day and brushed it off my mind till he mentioned that he saw his sisters coming in only after he saw his brother cheering in his wife. I then mentioned that I was really sad that he and the kids was not there, what he answered could have made me fume but i didn't. He said:
1) he did not know where the end point was - hello, I wasn't the first participant to come in, who is he kidding?
2) he had to bring the kids to eat breakfast. He knows that I won't blame him if it's anything to do with kids.
3) he had to go through the science work my nephew had done. At the run? I pity his nephew and wonder why he had to do it during that time.
4) It's hard to lug 3 kids around. Saying as if they were only toddlers, I don't buy this.
I give up hoping, in fact, if I hadn't. I won't be able to sleep with him. Perhaps I have too much expectation. Perhaps I wished he had cared a little more and don't give excuses when he did not.
For now, I'm trying to focus on his plus points so that I can appreciate him more than resenting.
Perhaps because there is a bugging resentment in me and when I say it, he does not want to acknowledge it at all.
My temperament is always been on the hot side. To me, I've been calming that alot, it takes enormous effort to do it but he expects it and I do have the feeling that he takes it for granted and does not appreciate.
On top of that, he always gives me the feeling that I can choose to be flexible in my job arrangement. It really does not matter to me to give more to the family but don't treat it like I'm a full time homemaker! I resent the fact that I'm doing everything and contributing to the dough too.
His priority differs alot from me. To him, he is already giving me support by fetching me to the run. But my brother in law not only sends his wife there, when they saw her coming in, they were cheering for her excitedly. Me, I was all alone when I came in and broke into cold sweat cos of my tummy ache and he wasn't there. I was very disappointed and I kept a straight face throughout the entire day and brushed it off my mind till he mentioned that he saw his sisters coming in only after he saw his brother cheering in his wife. I then mentioned that I was really sad that he and the kids was not there, what he answered could have made me fume but i didn't. He said:
1) he did not know where the end point was - hello, I wasn't the first participant to come in, who is he kidding?
2) he had to bring the kids to eat breakfast. He knows that I won't blame him if it's anything to do with kids.
3) he had to go through the science work my nephew had done. At the run? I pity his nephew and wonder why he had to do it during that time.
4) It's hard to lug 3 kids around. Saying as if they were only toddlers, I don't buy this.
I give up hoping, in fact, if I hadn't. I won't be able to sleep with him. Perhaps I have too much expectation. Perhaps I wished he had cared a little more and don't give excuses when he did not.
For now, I'm trying to focus on his plus points so that I can appreciate him more than resenting.
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